Work out if you are in a toxic situation



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It’s hard, you could be in a toxic situation, whether it’s in a relationship or at work or something else. 

It’s hard to know sometimes if it’s toxic or just challenging. But once you know, your rose-coloured glasses come off and you decide how you will proceed, whether you leave the situation or person, or you stay but set some clear boundaries. Maybe once you work it out, it’s not as toxic as you thought and that you do have freedoms that you can enjoy the most out of.

I will say upfront, as you work through the thoughts of working out it if it’s toxic or just challenging, your emotions are going to get sticky. It’s up to you to feel the emotions, acknowledge them but then move on. You don’t want to get stuck in a feeling and think it is toxic and then just stay there. You have to do a full circle and work out the whole situation and then release your emotions. Because only once you work out your full situation, then you can determine your next steps.

For example, is the situation making you want to avoid it on a regular basis? Does your stomach make you feel nauseous when you think about it? Does your breathing get quicker? 

These are all signs that your body is telling you, something needs some attention. And it’s this situation you are facing. Think about what you can control in the situation. Noting, you can’t control someone else or their reactions. But you can control if you stay or go. You can control how you spend your time and what you spend your time on.

Think about how you want the future to look if you stayed in this situation. Think about what you can do to make steps to make your future, your every day. If thats what you want. If it is not the future you want, think about how you can let go of the situation.

Now do you feel better with this result? If you do, you’re on the right path. Now, think about the steps you need to break free or move ahead? Remember, focus on what you can control. 

I know this can feel like a really uncomfortable situation to put yourself through. But trust me, whatever you decide at the end to stay or go, you will feel a lot more positive. You will look for how you can excel and do things that make you feel free. It’s a much better, positive experience to actually take time to work it all out. It might take five minutes it might take a few days to ponder it through. It really depends on the situation. Don’t push yourself on these days. Be gentle on yourself. And listen. Listen to your mind and also your body signals. The more you listen the more you can breathe. 

Once you decide, don’t look back. Focus on you and your future. You deserve to be free and happy. 

How do you feel now? 

Is there a smile on your face? You took control of your situation and you can breathe and live once again. Live the lift you want. 

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