Melanie Toye Uplifts

Image by Duckleap Free Resources from Pixabay It’s really important to do more of what gives you joy and/or peace inwardly.  But first, how do you know what works?  If you feel good after doing something, do that more often. If you feel anxious or your gut feels like something is wrong or your stomach feels tangled, try to do less of this. Although, if it’s nervous excited that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Just something you may need more practice on. And you may feel this way, when you are doing something big that you wouldn’t normally do, like a performance, a test or interview. It can range far and wide.  What are some ideas that could fill your cup: Spend time with people you like It could be spending time with family and/or loved ones. Spending time with people you like and can be yourself around, instantly eases your mind and relaxes your body. It’s a wholesome experience. Instead of worrying, am I being accepted by this person? Is what I am saying what they are ...

Image by KCADRC from Pixabay When you are young, you have big dreams. Fun dreams.  And then you start the workforce and your dreams are still there but in the sidelines. You not-realising unconsciously decide to stop focusing on your efforts and you stop dreaming your big dreams. Because work is all-consuming. Working for money is all-consuming. And what you will do with that money, like buy a house for example becomes your next goal. And there is nothing wrong with this… except you then go through life and at some points think, whatever happened to my big dreams?  And the feelings of feeling like you no longer have the confidence, the skill set or the ideal age to go and chase your dreams, so you push them aside and you let life’s chaos take over.  And then a few years later, the feelings and thoughts about your once big dreams come back.  This is me telling you: No matter how old you are or what your financial status is, you have one life to do everything you ever...

Image by Christophe from Pixabay You are stronger than you think.  Right now, you might be going through a problem, a challenge, a situation that feels awful that you want to run from. You can tell your friends about it but you have to live it yourself. It’s not fun. Every day the problem is there and it’s not going away.  You find ways to deal with it. But it’s hard because it keeps growing and it stays there. It’s affecting your mind and your health.  You can’t sleep. You struggle to eat. Your mind plays the thoughts over and over and it’s consuming you. You don’t know how to fix it. Because you can’t control it. You can only deal with it as each day it comes. It might change in different ways but it’s dirtier than ever. It plays hard and fast and you don’t know how to respond. You want to run but you know you can’t.  And then you do everything you can to stop it. To solve it. To fix it. You spend all your waking moments trying to think of new ways. It consumes yo...

Image by Joshua Woroniecki from Pixabay Sometimes, we can’t help being alone. Circumstances happen and we find ourselves alone and sometimes it’s quite frequent we are alone.  Alone time is fine and great sometimes. Although, when we are alone we tend to stay at home. Pot around and do what we feel like doing. And that is fine!  But sometimes, it’s too much and too long.  I suggest and hope you try this, is go out and explore a space. Either a place that you have been too before, because you know this place it will give you confidence to keep getting out and exploring. Or you could visit a new place and feel uplifted to explore a new space.  Whichever it is, go exploring! I have recently started a travel blog, so you can get inspired by my exploring adventures here:  https://melanietoyetravels.blogspot.com/?m=1 Have fun exploring! Aim for at least going out and exploring once a week. The natural good feeling vibe you will receive will be worth it. #exploring #u...

  Sourced video via: www.youtube.com  I love this song, Dose by Ciara. It's such a up beat, motivational, uplifting song!  When you fall fall, just get back up again. It's such a simple testament. We are challenged every day. Every day. We think we are a failure that we fell. Absolutely not. Because you can always get back up. Dust yourself off and just keep going.  Sometimes it's hard, especially if mean people are putting mean words into your head. Don't believe them. You are absolutely cool, special and loved. Sometimes those people are the ones closest to us, which makes it even more shocking to take in and also it feels like you have to believe them, because they know you. But do they? You know yourself the best. Deep down, you know you.  Forget what they say. For every time what they say pops into your mind, add afterwards an affirmation. For example, if they say "You aren't pretty." Tell yourself immediately, "I am beautiful inside and out....

  Image sourced via:Image by goodinteractive from Pixabay   It’s ok to feel lonely, this comes hard and fast and sometimes it triples over the holiday season.  When you are feeling overwhelmed and upset because you feel lonely. There are ways so many ways to pull yourself back up and feel like you again. You could be lonely or you could be a success  Think of how you could be a success in your own life. Think how your day to day would look like? What would you be doing? Would you be smiling?  What about if instead of feeling lonely you went and did something?  It could be anything! Go for a walk. Go do something special for yourself- like get a massage or some kind of pampering and self-care. Stop the crying and the sad thoughts and instead wipe those tears and just take a deep breath.  Get up from where you are and get out of that room! Sometimes, just changing rooms can help lift your spirit back up. Have you tried gardening?  Gardening gets yo...